How Juergen slept better by being more willing to experience insomnia & hard thoughts/feelings (#39)

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Ready to get your life back from insomnia? Learn more about the sleep coaching programs I offer at https://insomniacoach.com<br /><br />As Juergen got older, his sleep began to change. Although this is normal, Juergen didn’t know that at the time! And, just as he began to pay more attention to sleep, COVID hit, work stress increased, and all the places he used to enjoy going to got shut down.<br /><br />Juergen felt as though insomnia and all the difficult thoughts and feelings that come with it were starting to control his life. He felt as though he was losing himself and getting pulled away from the kind of life he wanted to live. This was when we started working together.<br /><br />Ultimately, Juergen became more willing to experience nighttime wakefulness. He became more accepting of the difficult thoughts and feelings that would show up. Juergen discovered that as long as he didn’t try to battle with all the stuff that was out of his control he could free up all that energy to do things that would help him live the kind of life he wanted to live instead. The skills Juergen learned and repeatedly practiced also helped when tinnitus returned after a long absence.<br /><br />Today, Juergen can notice when he’s getting distracted by his thoughts and feelings and is better able to disengage autopilot, bring himself back to the present moment, and refocus attention onto the actions he can control — actions that help him be the kind of person he wants to be and help him live the kind of life he wants to live, even in the presence of difficult thoughts and feelings and even after difficult nights.<br /><br />As a result, all the difficult stuff that is out of his control now has far less of an influence over his life — and he is also sleeping a lot better!<br /><br />Chapters:<br /><br />00:00:00 Introduction<br />00:03:27 Juergen's Sleep Struggles Begin<br />00:04:30 Health Issues and Work Stress<br />00:06:46 The Night That Changed Everything<br />00:09:02 Trying to Fix Sleep with Substances<br />00:12:03 Behavioral Changes and Daytime Adjustments<br />00:14:36 Feeling Lost and Seeking Help<br />00:15:27 What Helped Turn Things Around<br />00:17:12 Letting Go of Control<br />00:18:48 Learning to Live with Uncertainty<br />00:21:00 The Role of Difficult Emotions<br />00:23:02 Redefining Happiness<br />00:25:33 Tools, Hope, and Long-Term Progress<br />00:27:57 Regaining Identity and Finding Faith<br />00:30:02 Making Space for Anxiety<br />00:31:22 Acceptance as a Turning Point<br />00:33:13 Tools as Procedural Support<br />00:35:31 Structured Sleep Plan and Sleep Pressure<br />00:37:40 Less Time in Bed, Better Sleep<br />00:39:36 Making Wakefulness More Pleasant<br />00:41:02 Ending the Battle with the Brain<br />00:42:01 From Desperation to Detachment<br />00:43:29 Reacting Differently to Difficult Nights<br />00:45:16 Tinnitus and the Return of Anxiety<br />00:47:55 Similarities Between Tinnitus and Insomnia<br />00:49:50 Acceptance and Patience with Both Conditions<br />00:51:38 Healthier Life and Self-Compassion<br />00:53:38 Reflection and Growth<br />00:55:03 Final Advice for Struggling Listeners<br />00:57:46 Farewell and Thanks<br /><br />▶ Subscribe to the Insomnia Coach channel (and be sure to click the notification bell afterward so you don't miss any videos): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5LsLUeVA2j_Vsl5625shQ?sub_confirmation=1<br /><br />My name is Martin Reed and I am the founder of Insomnia Coach®. I offer sleep coaching services that give people with insomnia all the skills and support they need to enjoy better sleep for the rest of their lives. I also offer a free two-week sleep training course for people with insomnia at https://insomniacoach.com/sleep-training/?ref=youtube053122<br /><br />You can also find me here:<br /><br />Website: https://insomniacoach.com<br />Twitter: https://twitter.com/insomniacoach<br />Facebook: https://facebook.com/insomniacoach<br />Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myinsomniacoach/<br /><br />All content found on the Insomnia Coach YouTube channel is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. The statements and opinions expressed by guests are their own and are not necessarily endorsed by Insomnia Coach LLC. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.<br /><br />#insomnia<br />#sleep

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Ready to get your life back from insomnia? Learn more about the sleep coaching programs I offer at https://insomniacoach.com

As Juergen got older, his sleep began to change. Although this is normal, Juergen didn’t know that at the time! And, just as he began to pay more attention to sleep, COVID hit, work stress increased, and all the places he used to enjoy going to got shut down.

Juergen felt as though insomnia and all the difficult thoughts and feelings that come with it were starting to control his life. He felt as though he was losing himself and getting pulled away from the kind of life he wanted to live. This was when we started working together.

Ultimately, Juergen became more willing to experience nighttime wakefulness. He became more accepting of the difficult thoughts and feelings that would show up. Juergen discovered that as long as he didn’t try to battle with all the stuff that was out of his control he could free up all that energy to do things that would help him live the kind of life he wanted to live instead. The skills Juergen learned and repeatedly practiced also helped when tinnitus returned after a long absence.

Today, Juergen can notice when he’s getting distracted by his thoughts and feelings and is better able to disengage autopilot, bring himself back to the present moment, and refocus attention onto the actions he can control — actions that help him be the kind of person he wants to be and help him live the kind of life he wants to live, even in the presence of difficult thoughts and feelings and even after difficult nights.

As a result, all the difficult stuff that is out of his control now has far less of an influence over his life — and he is also sleeping a lot better!

Chapters:

00:00:00 Introduction
00:03:27 Juergen’s Sleep Struggles Begin
00:04:30 Health Issues and Work Stress
00:06:46 The Night That Changed Everything
00:09:02 Trying to Fix Sleep with Substances
00:12:03 Behavioral Changes and Daytime Adjustments
00:14:36 Feeling Lost and Seeking Help
00:15:27 What Helped Turn Things Around
00:17:12 Letting Go of Control
00:18:48 Learning to Live with Uncertainty
00:21:00 The Role of Difficult Emotions
00:23:02 Redefining Happiness
00:25:33 Tools, Hope, and Long-Term Progress
00:27:57 Regaining Identity and Finding Faith
00:30:02 Making Space for Anxiety
00:31:22 Acceptance as a Turning Point
00:33:13 Tools as Procedural Support
00:35:31 Structured Sleep Plan and Sleep Pressure
00:37:40 Less Time in Bed, Better Sleep
00:39:36 Making Wakefulness More Pleasant
00:41:02 Ending the Battle with the Brain
00:42:01 From Desperation to Detachment
00:43:29 Reacting Differently to Difficult Nights
00:45:16 Tinnitus and the Return of Anxiety
00:47:55 Similarities Between Tinnitus and Insomnia
00:49:50 Acceptance and Patience with Both Conditions
00:51:38 Healthier Life and Self-Compassion
00:53:38 Reflection and Growth
00:55:03 Final Advice for Struggling Listeners
00:57:46 Farewell and Thanks

▶ Subscribe to the Insomnia Coach channel (and be sure to click the notification bell afterward so you don’t miss any videos): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5LsLUeVA2j_Vsl5625shQ?sub_confirmation=1

My name is Martin Reed and I am the founder of Insomnia Coach®. I offer sleep coaching services that give people with insomnia all the skills and support they need to enjoy better sleep for the rest of their lives. I also offer a free two-week sleep training course for people with insomnia at https://insomniacoach.com/sleep-training/?ref=youtube053122

You can also find me here:

Website: https://insomniacoach.com
Twitter: https://twitter.com/insomniacoach
Facebook: https://facebook.com/insomniacoach
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myinsomniacoach/

All content found on the Insomnia Coach YouTube channel is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. The statements and opinions expressed by guests are their own and are not necessarily endorsed by Insomnia Coach LLC. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.

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