How Jessy separated herself from her thoughts and transformed her relationship with sleep (#50)

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Ready to get your life back from insomnia? Learn more about the sleep coaching programs I offer at https://insomniacoach.com<br /><br />The stress of COVID and the breakup of Jessy’s community created a period of sleep disruption that she couldn’t shake off, no matter how hard she tried. At first, she found it really hard to fall asleep and soon after that she started to wake during the night and found it hard to fall back to sleep, too.<br /><br />Difficult nights became more frequent — at first they would show up just once a week, then twice a week, then a few times a week. As sleep got more difficult, Jessy started to get really scared and things spiraled from there because no matter what she did in an attempt to get her sleep back on track, she continued to struggle.<br /><br />Jessy took medication that didn’t seem to be helping, but she worried that if she didn’t continue to take it, things would get worse. She felt desperate, hopeless, and alone. She felt as though she was losing control over her life.<br /><br />One day, Jessy found the Insomnia Coach podcast and started to feel hope as she listened to the stories of others who had experienced what she was going through. And, from there, she decided to work with me.<br /><br />Jessy started to realize that the more she tried to fight or avoid all the difficult stuff that came with insomnia, the more difficult things became. So, she started to acknowledge whatever she was thinking or feeling and practiced being kinder to herself when things were difficult.<br /><br />As she allowed her thoughts and feelings to flow with less resistance, Jessy realized that her thoughts often contained important information and reminders of what was important to her. She also realized that her mind could often be an unreliable narrator. That what it said wasn’t always true or accurate. These insights helped Jessy separate herself from her thoughts and feel less influenced and controlled by them.<br /><br />Today, Jessy considers her sleep to be quite normal. She is no longer tangled up in a struggle, trying to control her sleep. She is living the life she wants to live. Although she was certainly not grateful for her insomnia while she was struggling with it, she now sees the experience as giving her the opportunity to recognize her own resilience and the confidence to do hard things. She now believe that the experience of insomnia helped to catapult her into the next phase of her life.<br /><br />Chapters:<br /><br />00:00:00 Introduction<br />00:05:04 When Sleep Problems Started<br />00:07:17 Community Conflict and Sleep<br />00:09:27 Trying to Fix Insomnia<br />00:14:04 Finding Hope in Stories<br />00:17:04 The Power of Podcast Support<br />00:21:01 How Insomnia Affected Daily Life<br />00:23:57 Moving Home for Support<br />00:25:27 Career Impact and Big Decisions<br />00:27:10 Aha Moment: Doing Life Tired<br />00:30:03 Balancing Activity and Kindness<br />00:32:19 Choosing to Stay Engaged<br />00:34:22 Being Honest on Tired Days<br />00:36:13 The Power of “And”<br />00:38:03 Responding Differently to Setbacks<br />00:40:14 Off Nights Are Normal<br />00:42:03 Exploring Thought Separation<br />00:45:00 Mind as an Unreliable Narrator<br />00:47:12 Considering a Return to Independence<br />00:49:02 Choosing a New Path Forward<br />00:51:26 Building a Recovery Toolkit<br />00:52:32 Letting Go of Medication<br />00:55:48 Sleep Empowerment and Confidence<br />00:58:04 Practicing a New Approach<br />01:00:14 Final Reflections and Gratitude<br />01:03:10 Words of Encouragement<br />01:04:38 Closing Remarks<br /><br />▶ Subscribe to the Insomnia Coach channel (and be sure to click the notification bell afterward so you don't miss any videos): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5LsLUeVA2j_Vsl5625shQ?sub_confirmation=1<br /><br />My name is Martin Reed and I am the founder of Insomnia Coach®. I offer sleep coaching services that give people with insomnia all the skills and support they need to enjoy better sleep for the rest of their lives. I also offer a free two-week sleep training course for people with insomnia at https://insomniacoach.com/sleep-training/?ref=youtube072123<br /><br />You can also find me here:<br /><br />Website: https://insomniacoach.com<br />Twitter: https://twitter.com/insomniacoach<br />Facebook: https://facebook.com/insomniacoach<br />Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myinsomniacoach/<br /><br />All content found on the Insomnia Coach YouTube channel is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. The statements and opinions expressed by guests are their own and are not necessarily endorsed by Insomnia Coach LLC. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.<br /><br />#insomnia<br />#sleep

Insomnia Coach 2.4K views July 21, 2023 8:47 am

Ready to get your life back from insomnia? Learn more about the sleep coaching programs I offer at https://insomniacoach.com

The stress of COVID and the breakup of Jessy’s community created a period of sleep disruption that she couldn’t shake off, no matter how hard she tried. At first, she found it really hard to fall asleep and soon after that she started to wake during the night and found it hard to fall back to sleep, too.

Difficult nights became more frequent — at first they would show up just once a week, then twice a week, then a few times a week. As sleep got more difficult, Jessy started to get really scared and things spiraled from there because no matter what she did in an attempt to get her sleep back on track, she continued to struggle.

Jessy took medication that didn’t seem to be helping, but she worried that if she didn’t continue to take it, things would get worse. She felt desperate, hopeless, and alone. She felt as though she was losing control over her life.

One day, Jessy found the Insomnia Coach podcast and started to feel hope as she listened to the stories of others who had experienced what she was going through. And, from there, she decided to work with me.

Jessy started to realize that the more she tried to fight or avoid all the difficult stuff that came with insomnia, the more difficult things became. So, she started to acknowledge whatever she was thinking or feeling and practiced being kinder to herself when things were difficult.

As she allowed her thoughts and feelings to flow with less resistance, Jessy realized that her thoughts often contained important information and reminders of what was important to her. She also realized that her mind could often be an unreliable narrator. That what it said wasn’t always true or accurate. These insights helped Jessy separate herself from her thoughts and feel less influenced and controlled by them.

Today, Jessy considers her sleep to be quite normal. She is no longer tangled up in a struggle, trying to control her sleep. She is living the life she wants to live. Although she was certainly not grateful for her insomnia while she was struggling with it, she now sees the experience as giving her the opportunity to recognize her own resilience and the confidence to do hard things. She now believe that the experience of insomnia helped to catapult her into the next phase of her life.

Chapters:

00:00:00 Introduction
00:05:04 When Sleep Problems Started
00:07:17 Community Conflict and Sleep
00:09:27 Trying to Fix Insomnia
00:14:04 Finding Hope in Stories
00:17:04 The Power of Podcast Support
00:21:01 How Insomnia Affected Daily Life
00:23:57 Moving Home for Support
00:25:27 Career Impact and Big Decisions
00:27:10 Aha Moment: Doing Life Tired
00:30:03 Balancing Activity and Kindness
00:32:19 Choosing to Stay Engaged
00:34:22 Being Honest on Tired Days
00:36:13 The Power of “And”
00:38:03 Responding Differently to Setbacks
00:40:14 Off Nights Are Normal
00:42:03 Exploring Thought Separation
00:45:00 Mind as an Unreliable Narrator
00:47:12 Considering a Return to Independence
00:49:02 Choosing a New Path Forward
00:51:26 Building a Recovery Toolkit
00:52:32 Letting Go of Medication
00:55:48 Sleep Empowerment and Confidence
00:58:04 Practicing a New Approach
01:00:14 Final Reflections and Gratitude
01:03:10 Words of Encouragement
01:04:38 Closing Remarks

▶ Subscribe to the Insomnia Coach channel (and be sure to click the notification bell afterward so you don’t miss any videos): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5LsLUeVA2j_Vsl5625shQ?sub_confirmation=1

My name is Martin Reed and I am the founder of Insomnia Coach®. I offer sleep coaching services that give people with insomnia all the skills and support they need to enjoy better sleep for the rest of their lives. I also offer a free two-week sleep training course for people with insomnia at https://insomniacoach.com/sleep-training/?ref=youtube072123

You can also find me here:

Website: https://insomniacoach.com
Twitter: https://twitter.com/insomniacoach
Facebook: https://facebook.com/insomniacoach
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myinsomniacoach/

All content found on the Insomnia Coach YouTube channel is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. The statements and opinions expressed by guests are their own and are not necessarily endorsed by Insomnia Coach LLC. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.

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