How Bryan recovered from insomnia by putting less effort into sleep & more effort into living (#61)

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Ready to get your life back from insomnia? Learn more about my sleep coaching programs at https://insomniacoach.com<br /><br />When Bryan got sick he experienced an entire night of no sleep for the first time in his life. He didn’t sleep the next night, either. When his sleep didn’t get back on track, Bryan started to believe that he had lost the ability to sleep and that belief generated a lot of anxiety.<br /><br />As sleep consumed more and more of his energy and attention, Bryan started to withdraw from life. His relationships suffered as sleep became the center of his universe.<br /><br />Bryan found that the more he tried to make sleep happen, the more difficult sleep became, the more anxiety he experienced, the more likely he was to engage in actions that didn’t reflect who he was or who he wanted to be, and the more difficult everything became.<br /><br />And yet, as a driven problem-solver, he continued to try.<br /><br />Things began to change for Bryan when he accidentally fell asleep. When he fell asleep even though he didn’t do anything to make sleep happen. There was no trying. No effort. No rules. No rituals. No medication. No supplements.<br /><br />Bryan realized that he hadn’t lost the ability to sleep after all — and that he didn’t need to do anything to make sleep happen.<br /><br />This insight didn’t get rid of Bryan’s struggles overnight but it prompted him to change his approach.<br /><br />He started acting in ways that served him and the life he wanted to live, rather than sleep. When difficult nights showed up, he would remind himself of the better nights (and how they required no effort or intervention). Then, he would refocus his attention on what he could control by doing things that mattered to him — actions that kept him moving toward the life he wanted to live, independently of sleep.<br /><br />With this approach, sleep started to lose the power and influence it once had over his life. In Bryan’s own words, as he started getting his life back to normal, his sleep started getting back to normal, too.<br /><br />Chapters:<br /><br />00:00:00 Introduction<br />00:03:42 The Shift from a Trigger to a Struggle<br />00:06:40 Anxiety and the Search for Solutions<br />00:09:10 Desperation and Behaviors Out of Character<br />00:12:13 Being Hard on Himself<br />00:13:47 The Role of Determination in the Struggle<br />00:16:28 Racing Mind and Sleep Effort<br />00:18:22 The Problem with Trying to Control Sleep<br />00:22:01 Letting Go of Sleep Effort<br />00:23:59 The Accidental Night That Changed Everything<br />00:26:25 Reframing the Struggle and Building Confidence<br />00:29:53 Drawing on Past Success for Resilience<br />00:32:24 Coaching Ourselves with Kindness<br />00:35:10 Sleep as a Natural Ability<br />00:37:00 Shifting Focus from Sleep to Life<br />00:39:35 How to Stop Thinking About Sleep<br />00:42:32 Reducing Suffering by Reengaging with Life<br />00:45:51 Letting Go of the Quest for Perfect Sleep<br />00:48:20 Reintroducing the Things That Matter<br />00:51:01 Recovery Timeline and Lasting Change<br />00:53:03 Rebuilding Life Without Waiting for Sleep<br />00:55:52 Why Wait to Do What Matters<br />00:57:10 Final Message for Struggling Listeners<br />00:59:35 Closing and Resources<br /><br />▶ Subscribe to the Insomnia Coach channel (and be sure to click the notification bell afterward so you don't miss any videos): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5LsLUeVA2j_Vsl5625shQ?sub_confirmation=1<br /><br />My name is Martin Reed and I am the founder of Insomnia Coach®. I offer sleep coaching programs that will help you stop struggling with sleep so you can get your life back from insomnia. I also offer a free two-week sleep training course for insomnia at https://insomniacoach.com/sleep-training/?ref=youtube080524<br /><br />You can also find me here:<br /><br />Website: https://insomniacoach.com<br />Twitter: https://twitter.com/insomniacoach<br />Facebook: https://facebook.com/insomniacoach<br />Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myinsomniacoach/<br /><br />All content found on the Insomnia Coach YouTube channel is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. The statements and opinions expressed by guests are their own and are not necessarily endorsed by Insomnia Coach LLC. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.<br /><br />#insomnia<br />#sleep

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When Bryan got sick he experienced an entire night of no sleep for the first time in his life. He didn’t sleep the next night, either. When his sleep didn’t get back on track, Bryan started to believe that he had lost the ability to sleep and that belief generated a lot of anxiety.

As sleep consumed more and more of his energy and attention, Bryan started to withdraw from life. His relationships suffered as sleep became the center of his universe.

Bryan found that the more he tried to make sleep happen, the more difficult sleep became, the more anxiety he experienced, the more likely he was to engage in actions that didn’t reflect who he was or who he wanted to be, and the more difficult everything became.

And yet, as a driven problem-solver, he continued to try.

Things began to change for Bryan when he accidentally fell asleep. When he fell asleep even though he didn’t do anything to make sleep happen. There was no trying. No effort. No rules. No rituals. No medication. No supplements.

Bryan realized that he hadn’t lost the ability to sleep after all — and that he didn’t need to do anything to make sleep happen.

This insight didn’t get rid of Bryan’s struggles overnight but it prompted him to change his approach.

He started acting in ways that served him and the life he wanted to live, rather than sleep. When difficult nights showed up, he would remind himself of the better nights (and how they required no effort or intervention). Then, he would refocus his attention on what he could control by doing things that mattered to him — actions that kept him moving toward the life he wanted to live, independently of sleep.

With this approach, sleep started to lose the power and influence it once had over his life. In Bryan’s own words, as he started getting his life back to normal, his sleep started getting back to normal, too.

Chapters:

00:00:00 Introduction
00:03:42 The Shift from a Trigger to a Struggle
00:06:40 Anxiety and the Search for Solutions
00:09:10 Desperation and Behaviors Out of Character
00:12:13 Being Hard on Himself
00:13:47 The Role of Determination in the Struggle
00:16:28 Racing Mind and Sleep Effort
00:18:22 The Problem with Trying to Control Sleep
00:22:01 Letting Go of Sleep Effort
00:23:59 The Accidental Night That Changed Everything
00:26:25 Reframing the Struggle and Building Confidence
00:29:53 Drawing on Past Success for Resilience
00:32:24 Coaching Ourselves with Kindness
00:35:10 Sleep as a Natural Ability
00:37:00 Shifting Focus from Sleep to Life
00:39:35 How to Stop Thinking About Sleep
00:42:32 Reducing Suffering by Reengaging with Life
00:45:51 Letting Go of the Quest for Perfect Sleep
00:48:20 Reintroducing the Things That Matter
00:51:01 Recovery Timeline and Lasting Change
00:53:03 Rebuilding Life Without Waiting for Sleep
00:55:52 Why Wait to Do What Matters
00:57:10 Final Message for Struggling Listeners
00:59:35 Closing and Resources

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My name is Martin Reed and I am the founder of Insomnia Coach®. I offer sleep coaching programs that will help you stop struggling with sleep so you can get your life back from insomnia. I also offer a free two-week sleep training course for insomnia at https://insomniacoach.com/sleep-training/?ref=youtube080524

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All content found on the Insomnia Coach YouTube channel is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. The statements and opinions expressed by guests are their own and are not necessarily endorsed by Insomnia Coach LLC. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.

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