How Rupsa ended her insomnia struggle by being more open to experiencing insomnia (#69)

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Ready to get your life back from insomnia? Learn more about my sleep coaching programs at https://insomniacoach.com<br /><br />Rupsa never had issues with sleep until a big change in her professional life led her to move to a new city. As sleep became difficult, she experienced a lot of anxiety. Her heart would race. She started to develop a fear of going to bed at night. She’d spend four or five hours awake in bed, hoping to fall asleep.<br /><br />Working with a psychologist provided Rupsa with some clarity and her sleep got slightly better for a couple of months. However, when she started a new job, insomnia returned with a vengeance. The more she tried to make sleep happen, the more difficult and exhausting it became.<br /><br />Everything was going well in Rupsa’s life apart from sleep. It felt as though her mind was working against her. The more she tried to silence her mind, the louder and more distracting it became. The more she tried to make sleep happen the more of a struggle it became.<br /><br />Things started to change when Rupsa realized that trying to fight or avoid uncomfortable or difficult thoughts and feelings was consuming her energy and attention and pulling her away from the life she wanted to live. So, she started trying to be more open to whatever showed up.<br /><br />As she did this, she found her thoughts and feelings often contained important information. Reminders of what mattered to her. With this, she discovered that her mind was never working against her. It was actually working for her.<br /><br />Rupsa stopped trying to control sleep. She practiced bringing her focus and attention back to the present whenever it drifted away. She was kinder to herself. She became more accepting of whatever her mind might do and whatever each night might bring. With this, a burden was lifted — and, with going practice, things started to get better.<br /><br />Rupsa now sleeps well and, when the occasional night of less sleep shows up, it no longer has any power or influence over her.<br /><br />Chapters:<br /><br />00:00:00 Introduction<br />00:03:48 When Insomnia Became a Struggle<br />00:06:06 Early Attempts to Fix Sleep<br />00:09:13 Why the Problem Persisted<br />00:11:04 Emotional Triggers from Work<br />00:13:05 Confusion When Life Seemed Fine<br />00:16:02 Stopping the Self-Criticism<br />00:18:05 Learning Through Introspection<br />00:20:55 Journaling and Emotional Clarity<br />00:23:03 Aligning Actions With Values<br />00:25:28 The Role of Movement<br />00:27:47 Tension, Stress, and the Body<br />00:29:47 Staying Present Without Control<br />00:31:05 Letting Go of Sleep Effort<br />00:33:36 Accepting Wakefulness<br />00:36:19 Giving Up Sleep Control<br />00:38:20 Cutting Insomnia’s Strings<br />00:40:28 Alternatives to Struggle<br />00:42:32 You Are Not Alone<br />00:43:17 Life With Sleep Now<br />00:44:27 Language Shapes Experience<br />00:45:20 Encouragement for Others<br />00:46:33 Final Thoughts and Farewell<br />00:46:55 Outro and Coaching Invitation<br /><br />▶ Subscribe to the Insomnia Coach channel (and be sure to click the notification bell afterward so you don't miss any videos): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5LsLUeVA2j_Vsl5625shQ?sub_confirmation=1<br /><br />My name is Martin Reed and I am the founder of Insomnia Coach®. I offer sleep coaching programs that will help you stop struggling with sleep so you can get your life back from insomnia. I also offer a free two-week sleep training course for insomnia at https://insomniacoach.com/sleep-training/?ref=youtube050225<br /><br />You can also find me here:<br /><br />Website: https://insomniacoach.com<br />Twitter: https://twitter.com/insomniacoach<br />Facebook: https://facebook.com/insomniacoach<br />Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myinsomniacoach/<br /><br />All content found on the Insomnia Coach YouTube channel is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. The statements and opinions expressed by guests are their own and are not necessarily endorsed by Insomnia Coach LLC. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.<br /><br />#insomnia<br />#sleep

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Ready to get your life back from insomnia? Learn more about my sleep coaching programs at https://insomniacoach.com

Rupsa never had issues with sleep until a big change in her professional life led her to move to a new city. As sleep became difficult, she experienced a lot of anxiety. Her heart would race. She started to develop a fear of going to bed at night. She’d spend four or five hours awake in bed, hoping to fall asleep.

Working with a psychologist provided Rupsa with some clarity and her sleep got slightly better for a couple of months. However, when she started a new job, insomnia returned with a vengeance. The more she tried to make sleep happen, the more difficult and exhausting it became.

Everything was going well in Rupsa’s life apart from sleep. It felt as though her mind was working against her. The more she tried to silence her mind, the louder and more distracting it became. The more she tried to make sleep happen the more of a struggle it became.

Things started to change when Rupsa realized that trying to fight or avoid uncomfortable or difficult thoughts and feelings was consuming her energy and attention and pulling her away from the life she wanted to live. So, she started trying to be more open to whatever showed up.

As she did this, she found her thoughts and feelings often contained important information. Reminders of what mattered to her. With this, she discovered that her mind was never working against her. It was actually working for her.

Rupsa stopped trying to control sleep. She practiced bringing her focus and attention back to the present whenever it drifted away. She was kinder to herself. She became more accepting of whatever her mind might do and whatever each night might bring. With this, a burden was lifted — and, with going practice, things started to get better.

Rupsa now sleeps well and, when the occasional night of less sleep shows up, it no longer has any power or influence over her.

Chapters:

00:00:00 Introduction
00:03:48 When Insomnia Became a Struggle
00:06:06 Early Attempts to Fix Sleep
00:09:13 Why the Problem Persisted
00:11:04 Emotional Triggers from Work
00:13:05 Confusion When Life Seemed Fine
00:16:02 Stopping the Self-Criticism
00:18:05 Learning Through Introspection
00:20:55 Journaling and Emotional Clarity
00:23:03 Aligning Actions With Values
00:25:28 The Role of Movement
00:27:47 Tension, Stress, and the Body
00:29:47 Staying Present Without Control
00:31:05 Letting Go of Sleep Effort
00:33:36 Accepting Wakefulness
00:36:19 Giving Up Sleep Control
00:38:20 Cutting Insomnia’s Strings
00:40:28 Alternatives to Struggle
00:42:32 You Are Not Alone
00:43:17 Life With Sleep Now
00:44:27 Language Shapes Experience
00:45:20 Encouragement for Others
00:46:33 Final Thoughts and Farewell
00:46:55 Outro and Coaching Invitation

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My name is Martin Reed and I am the founder of Insomnia Coach®. I offer sleep coaching programs that will help you stop struggling with sleep so you can get your life back from insomnia. I also offer a free two-week sleep training course for insomnia at https://insomniacoach.com/sleep-training/?ref=youtube050225

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All content found on the Insomnia Coach YouTube channel is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. The statements and opinions expressed by guests are their own and are not necessarily endorsed by Insomnia Coach LLC. All content is provided “as is” and without warranties, either express or implied.

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